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| It's Not Your Fault That You Are Afraid To Join GRN |
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| Written by Pavel Becker |
| Saturday, 01 November 2008 07:32 |
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People who own their own businesses radiate confidence, wealth, and just can't hide their free spirits. They don't punch a clock and don't answer to anyone but themselves. We see them behind the wheels of their fancy cars and living in those big houses and think: "sure, he can afford those things-he owns his own business" and business must be booming. We are absolutely comfortable explaining somebody's successes by this "having his own business"-thing, and, yet, the idea of becoming one of this people terrifies us like nothing else. Go ask any of your friends if they would be interested in joining you in a home based business - without any preparation they will give you at list five reasons why it's not going to work. They have never done it, they have never known anybody who'd tried it, but they know for sure that "You are going to lose everything on that." Why do we act this way? What happened in our past that we've become so conditioned to fail? Why is the failure so obvious and understandable for us? When has it become a default outcome of any situation? It's a complicated question with a complicated answer. Let's break it down. Our system of teaching, the Prussian System, trains us-whether we realize it or not-to be good emploees. It gives us the skills and molds our minds to work for someone else! We learn in school and in life in general that we have to fit in, and to do that we need jobs. So we find one, slave away for peanuts, and hope that we won't have to leach off our children when we retire forty or fifty years down the road. We learn to see the only possible course for our life to take is work for someone else, to please our employers, and hope that they will reward us for the work that we do. We are taught that the only option for us to work for someone else and do so happily for a pat on the back and a handful of cash, totally forgetting our own dignity! Remember, when you were a kid, you were planning on becoming either an astronaut or a captain or a jet-pilot? So, how did you end up becoming an office worker or an insurance salesman? Throughout our early education we are repeatedly told that those fantasies are impractical, unreliable, and a waste of time. We never going to be what we want to be and if we do some day get there, we can never make money doing that! Before you know it you are already employed by somebody and already complaining about not being able to afford the lifestyle you want and the things you want. Few years down the road it becomes normality for you and next thing you know you are teaching you kids to follow your steps. It's the sort of behavior we learned from our parents and it's the behavior you'll be passing on to your kids and your grandchildren if you don't find the courage to put a stop to the cycle and turn your future around. By turning things around I mean becoming your own boss and regaining control of your future! It so scary! Mainly because it's something new, something you've never done before. Especially something like an Internet based business, with all the hype and rumors about it! That's where the "Comfort Zone" comes to play. How do we learn anything? There is only one way - repetition. Remember, you try to write, it looks awful in the beginning, but you keep re-writing the same word over and over and become good at it. By now you don't even think how to do it, you just know. That's the same way you learned to talk, to read, to play, and even to make money. Through repetition you become who you are as well. In the beginning you go to work and you hate everything about it: having to wake up early, having to report to your boss, having to take from people there the treatment that you are not accustomed to. You keep thinking that one day it's going to change, that it's only a temporary situation, but year goes after year and nothing is changing. Someday, maybe sooner than later, your eyes will open and you'll see that, without your knowledge, you have become a cookie-cutter representative of everyone you share an occupation with. You own the same style of car, wear the same clothes, speak the same language, and even have the same hobbies! Through repetition you learn action, behavior, and thoughts that will define you for the rest of your life. Your actions, behavior, and thoughts will separate the world into two parts: familiar and not familiar. The former will feel comfortable and friendly, and the latter will cause your brain to give you a burst of adrenalin, letting you know that you are stepping out of your comfort zone. Even tiny amounts of adrenalin can influence your decision making. Think of it as chemical induced stress-avoidance behavior-it can run your life if you let it! Tony Robbins once said, "It's in the moment of making a decision when the destiny is formed!" It is that feeling of discomfort that comes from doing anything new that will keep you from stepping out of your routine and toward the life you really want to live. Everyone you know will be a big help at keeping you in line as well. Look around at the people you call friends. It's kind of interesting that you don't really hang around anyone who makes much less than you do or anyone who makes much more. Studies have found that a person's incomes can often be figured as an average of the incomes of their seven closest acquaintances. Ask any of them about starting a new business venture and earning six figures a year and you'll get blank stares, excuses, recipes for failure, and panic. They don't know anything about any of that and can't help you get there either. All you'll hear is that it just won't work, that stuff like that never really happens. The worst part is you'll take their opinion as fact, more often than not, because it represents the path of least resistance-it's much easier to keep doing what you are doing than to succeed at anything new. Thich Nhat Hanh wrote something hundreds of years ago but he could just as well have written them today: "people are having a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of fear of the unknown they prefer suffering that is familiar." Sound a little bit like you? You've heard all about Global Resort Network, have read, watched, and listened to all the testimonials of people who have success dealing with them but you're still not ready to take that next step. You can't let your life be ruled by what-ifs. What is something goes wrong? What if this I can succeed? What if I do succeed? Listen to this. Before my first Tae Kwon Do tournament fight I went to my instructor, Master Shilkaitis, and told him that though I wanted to compete, but I wasn't sure that I was ready. He told me that I "would never feel one hundred percent ready. It's just a matter of finding the strength and desire to win and overcoming your fear." I took a third place for a spectacular knock-out with a round house kickto the head. It doesn't happen even in the black belt category every day. I was so frightened, that I still don't remember how it happened! Having me talk to you all day won't do any good. Either you will decide to take the next step or you will fall back into your old comfortable ways and never stray outside your comfort zone. Nothing will change on its own! If you continue doing what you've been doing, you will continue getting the results you've been getting! Make a change in your life today! You'll be scared and there will be bumps in the road but you'll never know just how high you can truly fly unless you get off the ground. Choose to live the life you want to live! If you do, maybe next time you hear someone say "sure, he can afford those things-he owns his own business," they'll be a talking about you. About the Author: About the author: Pavel Becker is a frequent contributor of articles on the subjects of Web-Promotion and Small Business Development. To find out how to make money on-line go to his website PavelBecker.com Click here to get your own unique version of this article with free reprint rights. Kindly provided by MoneyHunter.org You are welcome to use this article on your own website, if you include the link just before this text. |
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