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| The Ego, Why It Can Be Persuasion And Influence's Biggest Challenge |
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| Written by Kurt Mortensen |
| Thursday, 18 March 2010 08:27 |
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Ego kicks in anytime someone challenges your abilities, especially your abilities to do your business, your immediate and instinctive reaction is to prove them wrong! When employing this tactic, be careful to avoid damaging the ego. VERY IMPORTANT: When you cause damage instead of producing a challenge, you will create an air of indifference from your prospect. Sports coaches use another challenge to the ego in a team environment. For instance during football practice one of the players is not giving it 100%, doesn't make meeting on time, or makes the same mistake over and over, the coach has the perfect ego based solution. He call a team meeting explains to the teams what been going on with this particular player. He then has every one on the team except the guilty player run some laps. The punishment is a challenge to that football player's ego. Situations like that only have to take place once to be persuasive for each member of the team. We very often have challenging messages geared directly at our egos. As an example in a multilevel meeting, managers may say they only want to work with the "go-getters" and "people that can take action." Teachers may phrase it to a student like this, "I'd like for you to do the advanced assignments." I have even seen sales representatives attack their prospect with a subtle suggestion like, "I guess you don't have the authority to make that decision." You should see the egos come alive. Another way is to give people credit for things they don't know. When you do this they will generally say nothing and allow you to believe them to be smarter and more aware than they really are. Then they will try to live up to the undeserved credit you have just bestowed upon them, just so they can lead you to believe they are really smart. Here are a couple more phrases that are direct challenges to our egos, "You probably already know...." or "You will soon realize..." When it comes to persuasion we are faced with a very tricky task of building up the egos of our prospects and placing our egos on hold. To be effective at persuasion you have to let go you your ego and focus on the objective at hand. You don't want to have to deal with a bruised ego. So check your ego at the door and remember your overriding purpose is on persuasion and not you. About the Author: Want to find out more about persuasion skills, then visit Kurt Mortensen's site. Take Kurt's FREE Persuasion IQ test and see where your strengths lie and where you need improvement. Click here to get your own unique version of this article with free reprint rights. Kindly provided by MoneyHunter.org You are welcome to use this article on your own website, if you include the link just before this text. |
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